Some person I just met at a party asked me if I have Asperger’s. He explained he has Asperger’s himself and just wondered.
I thought it was a rude remark of him. Especially since we barely know each other. I certainly don’t have Asperger’s. This was some years ago.
Either way, I just got diagnosed.
Yeah at a party here as well. I was told I had ASD, but was ‘high functioning’, and able to mask it. Sounds about right.
Didn’t get converted to a permanent position after a whole year. The only negative feedback (among great remarks) I had was:
- Be more organized. Send more updates more often.
- Speak without tangents or sounding scattered.
- Improve prediction of how long tasks will take and completion dates when considering other priorities.
Does anyone want to guess my diagnosis? Lol
The maddening thing is that I didn’t get any follow-up after those comments until five months later, when I got the surprising news that they would not be continuing with me. If I had thought my med change and work strategies were not, in fact, improving my performance, I would have pursued accommodations.
I was at a party just yesterday (very unlike me) that was mostly people I don’t know and within the first hour someone asked me if I was on ADHD medication.
I mean I’m not on medication which is probably how I got pinned so quickly but I still found it funny that in a crowd of people that has never met me I apparently still scream TISM.
My boss has got very high EQ, but tends to have fraught, tense relationships with our female coworkers (I described it to my husband as working with a mother and daughter who don’t get along- they say a bunch of things that seem nice and also seem to hurt each other a lot and I don’t know why).
She sometimes says passive aggressive things to me, but it always takes me too long to parse passive aggression in person, so I respond completely earnestly. This seems to confuse her without being rude, and she’s just vexed by me.
Actually, passive aggression in general makes me feel very neurodivergent.
Honestly this seems like the best way to deal with someone being passive aggressive. If they have a problem make them actually say something.
I fully agree. It’s not always intentional, because sometimes I do pick up on it (probably the non native language + work makes it just impossible to get in the moment from her), but I almost always pretend not to, and it generally defuses the situation pretty well.
I’m also a crier, so the alternative is not great
No I changed my mind next time you should start balling. Like the ugly kind of crying that makes it hard for others to look.
I was working on a personal project when a friend visited. I went through a quick series of successes and failures with my project and openly emoted at each, afterward he said to me “I’ve never seen anyone go through so many emotions in such a short amount of time.”
Does my doctor who stopped in the middle of an appointment, looked at me, and said “you know you’re neurodivergent, right?” count?
I was hospitalized for a seizure recently and the nurse ended up going and grabbing me a little silicon bubble fidget thing because I just couldn’t stop messing with shit.
Edit: exact phrasing was “let me go grab you something to play with”
I am learning an instrument as an adult and my instructor commented “You’re so good at recognizing patterns.” That comment hit way harder than it had any right to.
Reminds me of one of mine. In the middle of my lesson, my instrument teacher paused to ask me some questions: can you tie your shoes without looking? Do you have trouble unlocking your door in the dark? Etc. Turns out I have little to no muscle memory lol.
If you don’t mind me asking is there more context to this or was it literally in the middle of an annual physical or something
I think you replied to the wrong comment. Most music instructors don’t do those, haha
Sounds like you’re going to the wrong music instructors.
A friend posted a link to something and mentioned me saying “you’re hyper literal brain will like this” and when I got done being annoyed about the typo I realized for the first time I am excessively literal.
Another time at lunch with a friend she mentioned in an offhand way that I have anxiety and that was when I first realized what anxiety is and that it’s not normal to feel the way I do all the time.
and when I got done being annoyed about the typo I realized
I love this excessively literal description :)
It was 13 years ago but I still can’t forget the typo.
I know that. I don’t get annoyed by typos in internet comments, but when a news organization has a typo I hate that whole article. even if it’s just, a wrongly placed comma, or missing a capital letter.
It took me revisiting this comment to see the type and uh… AAAAA
Had 2 psychologists refuse to work with me, after they got to know me
Psychologists don’t just refuse to work with neurodivergent people, if they did that would be a lot of patients. There is a lot more context to this statement that you haven’t shared.
I think you misunderstand. Psychologists may presumably refuse to work with individuals with this user’s particular neurodivergence.
It’s not exactly the same as a real life situation, but Tony Soprano’s psychiatrist eventually refuses to work with him over some (perhaps misdiagnosed) sociopathy.
In my case, they did. Yes, of course there is more context.
…not until now…
My psychiatrist does all the time
Probably in their mind, but not that I’d care to pay attention; so not obvious to me.
Human beings are diverse. defining a human as “divergent” is meaningless and so fucking dumb. Psychologists seem to be really bad at statistical analysis; and/or data collection that is representative of the species. But they’re maybe good at conning mugs to pay them to denigrate people who don’t fit their world view, or confound their predictions.
It’s not meaningless. Some peoples brain work in a competely different way than the majority, and why should we ignore that? It’s very important knowledge to figure out things.
It’s not like it’s a tiny scale or small differences between people. It’s more like 99% being quite similar and then 1% being completely different. That is very significant. Numbers are made up to make a point.
It’s almost like saying let’s not study sociopaths because they are just like everyone else. They aren’t.
