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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • Cheating is complicated. Yeah some people just will, they are fooling themselves when they say they won’t. Some people find it sexy, they literally want to cheat, they think it’s hot. Others will if the situation gets extreme, people in dead bedroom situations who want to keep their family together and make the calculation (or miscalculation) that cheating is less damaging than divorcing. I worked with old people when I was younger, my bosses were old Spanish people who married for business reasons but had lovers, they did not love each other in a romantic way.

    I’d say that as divorce becomes easier to get, marriage more based on love rather than alliance and monogamy less required, there is probably less cheating. But it won’t ever be zero.

    If you are asking is cheating universal? No. It’s not.





  • I am a parent of adults and really just want them to meet their own standards for themselves. My mom was the same. Sure I’d like grandkids, but not to the point I would ask! Their lives are for them to live.

    If you are asking about little kids, it’s because they are exhausting. We went out to get tacos and there was the cutest little boy running around yelling “va! va!”. How delightful for us but I’m sure his mom was tired of it, it was 8pm. I am sure she would be happy if he would just sit down and eat now.




  • Diet coke & cocktails, and potato chips (crisps and fries both) though I am moderate with all.

    Sloth, I guess - I’m physically active, but so lazy in some ways, wake up when I wake up, want people to come to my house, I don’t want to go to theirs, want to live close to everything so I don’t have to travel, don’t work as hard as I could at work, don’t try to move up.

    Sex. Every day at least once.

    Reading is my escape, but I don’t think it’s a vice.



  • My mom said “never learn to sew. You will look at clothes and say ‘no way I am buying that, I can make it’ and then you won’t make it, and you will have nothing to wear”.

    I did sew costumes for my kids for Halloween, stuff that doesn’t have to last, but get what she was saying.

    I do, however, cook much better than she did and am not sorry, still like going out to eat. And can make cocktails better than most I’d get at a bar but still find joy in going out for a drink. I think she was right about clothes though, they aren’t an experience like going out to dinner.