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Cake day: June 27th, 2024

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  • This is my plan.

    Similar background. My parents just took the “everything is very bad” angle but it was very obvious that want true in a lot of cases. The result being a lot of risky experimentation with no support or guidance from an adult.

    I think the message is, life is about the journey, we’re here to experience everything we can and that includes sex, drugs, and rock and roll. The problem is that its very easy to make a mistake that will greatly diminish your experiences later on.

    With driving, and sex, a momentary lapse in judgement can irrevocably change the trajectory of your life. Simply being aware of that is hopefully enough to help someone make smart choices?

    Drugs and booze can be fun. I enjoyed the full range of experiences in that regard. The best I can do is to try to ensure my kids feel comfortable talking to me about things.

    Edit: yeah smoking is a real bitch. I got off that train a year ago thank fuck. IDK how to talk to a kid about something like that. Maybe just let them talk and challenge the misconceptions. The thing that trapped me is that I thought I wouldn’t get addicted because it was so awful. It took a lot of effort to get used to it. By then it was too late.



  • Yeah. I tend to agree.

    Being able to drive without killing someone is only one aspect of an autonomous vehicle, and security is one that I’m not confident about in the least.

    I’ve noticed that my wife’s Level 2 car is just hopeless outside of the city. Sure that’s where most people live and it’s fine for most people.

    Driving on country roads it spends more time having self-disabled it’s autonomous features than not, simply because it can’t see the road or what have you.


  • You’re not wrong, but that’s not really what I meant although perhaps I didn’t explain it very well.

    Another way to say the same thing, if you group together all the various components or aspects of “driving”, 95% of them might be solved relatively easily, but getting the last 5% right is extraordinarily difficult.

    It’s deceiving because the first time you saw a Level 2 car in 2018 it’s natural to think that if they’ve made so much progress seemingly overnight, then surely in the next few years we will have Level 6 cars.

    I do take your point that humans are also good drivers 95% of the time and mistakes only occur within 5% of situations. The issue there is the imperative that autonomous cars must be better than a human in all circumstances. If a human makes, on average, 5 serious mistakes every 500,000km, but an autonomous car makes 6, you’d probably not want to put your family in that autonomous car.


  • It’s this.

    To me, saying “this too shall pass” reminds me that life is a journey of good things and bad things my purpose is to experience them all as fully as I can.

    Yesterday was great because x, today is shit because y, tomorrow will be new and different because z.

    When I’m obsessing and disparing about y, saying “this too shall pass” reminds me that there’s a bigger picture, and that y situation will change just as x did.






  • I think your angle is a bit reductive.

    Conversations or interactions generally don’t go from 0 to how-dare-you-not-care-about-my-baby instantaneously.

    For example, in a cafe, order coffee, I’ve never met the barista before, they’re not going to flop out baby photos and grill me about how much I don’t care about their kidlet. They might make casual conversation, how are you, great day, bit tired, newborn up all night, oh I have a newborn too, she’s been unwell, yeah ours had HFMD last week, oh that’s tough, is she better now, was the fever bad, and so on and so forth. What I’m saying is, it’s through the too and fro that you guage how interested someone is in the things that are important to you.

    If my sister had a child then she would probably just expect me to care about her new baby because she’s family and we see each other every week and the new baby is going to be part of my life for the rest of my life.

    Another thing that happens is… people just get excited about things and that’s ok too. I became a new father almost a year ago. To me, it’s the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to me. Of course I understand that it’s not very amazing to anyone else, but for those first few weeks of course I was excited about it. It would be fine if I were to “overshare” with my barista, but it would also be fine if they were to tell me to keep my baby photos to myself.




  • Someone will be asking in a moment to tell us that this is shitpost community, some people are too uptight, that its dark humour, and that we should just block the community if we don’t like it.

    Only a child can find things like rape and suicide funny, because they lack the emotional depth to understand the ramifications of these concepts.