You tell them, and their reaction will tell you everything you need to know about compatibility. If they respond by asking you questions and seek an understanding and how to address those concerns, you have a winner. If they are indifferent or respond poorly, then consider a different partner.

There’s no need to tiptoe in a healthy, secure relationship.

“hey so I’d like to try this out with you. I have some reservations, so if we could kind of lay some ground rules and boundaries and all that beforehand, take it slow. Be mindful, check in with me please. I will communicate my concerns here, just please be patient with me! I am wanting to explore and be fun together, but I want to ease into this.” Explain your side. See their response, listen to them.

Idk something like that, talk about it all, be transparent, be honest. we’re all human and sex should be fun!

Previous answers are both great. I would just add to try it at a time both partner are in the mood for it, and without pressure yourselves. May be it doesn’t make it for one or both of you ; or maybe you would in fact like it once you try it. I don’t think stress and sex are good friends. And so I see communication, understanding, and common will are keys of good experiences. (Even, and especially, when the output of the experience is “this is not my thing”)

I have encountered several women who actually think their pussy has a bad ordor. They don’t understand that guys actually enjoy the smell. And it’s fun to lick a pussy.

So my experience is from the perspective of someone who likes going down and who has had partners with pussies that were insecure about it. Patience is really key. The person with the insecurity needs to feel comfortable to start branching out and experimenting so focus on creating emotional safety for them. Let them know you love the thought, but will respect the boundaries they have set. Once that trust is there you can discuss options with them to lesson their anxiety.

• If they are uncomfortable about the taste or smell, ask if a barrier or having the opportunity to shower before would help. Maybe a lubricant or other body safe fluid with flavor could be used to help ease them into it.
• Set safe words for the experience so if they get overwhelmed or need to stop they don’t feel pressured to let you continue.
• Discuss if they would prefer an experience where they guide you or if they would prefer you to take the lead
• If the opportunity to shower before would ease their mind offer some shower fore-foreplay to get them excited
• Be honest about anything that might bother you, but not judgemental. If you let them know what would actually turn you off they might feel more secure in where they are at. From personal experience, I am fine with most all vaginas, but pee is a turn off for me. I have had two occasions where folks had issues controlling their bladders mid orgasm, but because I was clear and not particularly affronted in the moment, the second time didn’t even end that session, just caused a short recess. It might not be sexy to discuss turn offs, but letting your partner know your dislikes how to address them with you should help. Things happen and be sure to make your partner knows that you will be emotionally safe to be around when they do.
• Share relevant insecurities of your own, but only if they don’t belittle theirs. What I mean by that is if you have body insecurities that you struggle with that they know and are respectful of, express that you would like to do the same for them. Just avoid vague or minor insecurities that might make them feel you aren’t actually understanding their insecurity.