It honestly doesn’t really occur to me to classify a penis I come in contact with. What size category it’s in only really crosses my mind when the subject at hand is what condoms to buy/use. Of course I can see its size, but the thought is never ‘this is big/small/medium’, just stuff like ‘huh, gotta be a bit more careful with my teeth than what I’m used to’. Might be relevant to mention that I also enjoy sex with people who don’t have a penis at all.
lol, condom sizes for guys are about as bullshit as clothing sizes for women.
Nothing is standardized, you basically just have to either look up each mfg’s size specs or try it on first, to have any idea how it actually fits.
But also… you do say that the thought that occurs to you would be something like ‘gotta be more careful about my teeth with this one’.
Presumably the preceding, maybe unconscious thought to that is ‘that one is bigger than what I’m used to’, no?
Like here, maybe another thought excercize would be (and apologies if me presuming you are a bi/pan vag8na haver is innacurate):
What size of a dick would it have to be for you to see and just go Nope!, there’s no way that isn’t going to hurt, not without a lot of lube and/or physically readying yourself for the uh, endeavor?
Oh yeah they are! Luckily a lot of them list diameter. What I meant was more like, the box has a size category listed on it, which makes me think of size as a category.
As for the teeth thing: I guess what I’m saying is that, while I might notice size, I don’t think of it in terms of category. So, no ‘this is large/medium/small’, more of a relative way of thinking of it.
As for the last bit: there’s so many different ways to have sex, I don’t think there’s any type of genitals that would make me not want to have sex with the owner of them. You can always figure something out that is enjoyable for both (or all; though I don’t have experience with that) participants.
Eh, well, I already know you don’t normally think in terms of categories that have at least estimates of actual numbers that define thresholds or categories.
You already said that this just generally doesn’t occur to you, its not part of your approach to, or experience of sex.
Which is good to know!
A lot of guys think a lot of gals are quite judgemental, and well, while sure some of them are, size queens do exist… yeah most of them really are not.
But, what I am asking is for you to try to make those definitions, those categories, to try and think that way.
Try to step into another frame of mind, a different way of thinking,… I guess not entirely unlike 'would you try this new kink?
IE, x by y size is big enough that’d I’d have to be consciously making an effort to not accidentally hurt them with my teeth during a BJ, that I may need to worried about a gag reflex, that it would just plain ole hurt to have my mouth/jaw open that wide for very long.
Or, as with my earlier attempt at defining a kind of threshold scenario… surely there is some maximum size limit that would make you say, nope, that’s not going in me because it will hurt too much, or it very easily could if they’re not very, very careful.
Even if its way beyond the size of any dick you’re reasonably likely to encounter, and into some kind of monster strapon or dildo range.
Saying that you could figure out how to enjoy a monster or micro cock in some kind of way… is dodging the question of ‘what would you define as a monster or micro cock such that you’d need to think about it differently.’
It’s great that you’re so accepting of all kinds of different types of body plans, but that’s not an answer to my question.
Like, if me, a guy, wants to get pegged, I’m gonna be able to tell my XX partner ‘please use a strap on of this size, but no bigger, I don’t think I can handle that’, or likewise for getting dicked down by another dude… or transwoman who still has their meatrod, etc.
However, if you just don’t want to try to answer these kinds of questions or think in this way, or maybe you don’t think you could actually give numbers to it with any confidence, that’s fine too, I’m not gonna non consensually demand it of you.
It honestly doesn’t really occur to me to classify a penis I come in contact with. What size category it’s in only really crosses my mind when the subject at hand is what condoms to buy/use. Of course I can see its size, but the thought is never ‘this is big/small/medium’, just stuff like ‘huh, gotta be a bit more careful with my teeth than what I’m used to’. Might be relevant to mention that I also enjoy sex with people who don’t have a penis at all.
lol, condom sizes for guys are about as bullshit as clothing sizes for women.
Nothing is standardized, you basically just have to either look up each mfg’s size specs or try it on first, to have any idea how it actually fits.
But also… you do say that the thought that occurs to you would be something like ‘gotta be more careful about my teeth with this one’.
Presumably the preceding, maybe unconscious thought to that is ‘that one is bigger than what I’m used to’, no?
Like here, maybe another thought excercize would be (and apologies if me presuming you are a bi/pan vag8na haver is innacurate):
What size of a dick would it have to be for you to see and just go Nope!, there’s no way that isn’t going to hurt, not without a lot of lube and/or physically readying yourself for the uh, endeavor?
Oh yeah they are! Luckily a lot of them list diameter. What I meant was more like, the box has a size category listed on it, which makes me think of size as a category.
As for the teeth thing: I guess what I’m saying is that, while I might notice size, I don’t think of it in terms of category. So, no ‘this is large/medium/small’, more of a relative way of thinking of it.
As for the last bit: there’s so many different ways to have sex, I don’t think there’s any type of genitals that would make me not want to have sex with the owner of them. You can always figure something out that is enjoyable for both (or all; though I don’t have experience with that) participants.
Eh, well, I already know you don’t normally think in terms of categories that have at least estimates of actual numbers that define thresholds or categories.
You already said that this just generally doesn’t occur to you, its not part of your approach to, or experience of sex.
Which is good to know!
A lot of guys think a lot of gals are quite judgemental, and well, while sure some of them are, size queens do exist… yeah most of them really are not.
But, what I am asking is for you to try to make those definitions, those categories, to try and think that way.
Try to step into another frame of mind, a different way of thinking,… I guess not entirely unlike 'would you try this new kink?
IE, x by y size is big enough that’d I’d have to be consciously making an effort to not accidentally hurt them with my teeth during a BJ, that I may need to worried about a gag reflex, that it would just plain ole hurt to have my mouth/jaw open that wide for very long.
Or, as with my earlier attempt at defining a kind of threshold scenario… surely there is some maximum size limit that would make you say, nope, that’s not going in me because it will hurt too much, or it very easily could if they’re not very, very careful.
Even if its way beyond the size of any dick you’re reasonably likely to encounter, and into some kind of monster strapon or dildo range.
Saying that you could figure out how to enjoy a monster or micro cock in some kind of way… is dodging the question of ‘what would you define as a monster or micro cock such that you’d need to think about it differently.’
It’s great that you’re so accepting of all kinds of different types of body plans, but that’s not an answer to my question.
Like, if me, a guy, wants to get pegged, I’m gonna be able to tell my XX partner ‘please use a strap on of this size, but no bigger, I don’t think I can handle that’, or likewise for getting dicked down by another dude… or transwoman who still has their meatrod, etc.
However, if you just don’t want to try to answer these kinds of questions or think in this way, or maybe you don’t think you could actually give numbers to it with any confidence, that’s fine too, I’m not gonna non consensually demand it of you.