She also lists several legitimate reasons to turn down the role. She didn’t want to move to London and get painted green every day for 6 months, which Saldana and Bautista have both complained about (the make up, not London).

Other than that, this seems like she’s admitting to making a huge miscalculation, picking A Million Ways to Die in the West instead.

As stupid of a decision as this appears to be in hindsight, Seyfried wouldn’t have been as good in the role. It’s entirely possible that with her in the role, the movie might have flopped.

I think the only egregious thing is thinking that being in an MCU flop would negatively impact her career. The Incredible Hulk was technically the first MCU flop, but I’d argue that Eternals was the first one that failed on its own merits. That entire ensemble cast hasn’t had any issues getting additional work. If anything, it’s the successful movies that resulted in actors being typecast and struggling to find work.

So the takeaway seems to be that you shouldn’t let fear keep you from projects. Choosing other passion projects, not wanting to be in makeup, not wanting to move, those are legitimate reasons to turn down a role.

Same answer.

Can a soccer player hold a soccer ball in his hands?

That works if you live and work in an environment where you control who is in your space. That’s not really an option for most people.

Bridge collapse

Every crisis is an opportunity.

If you murder a murderer, you don’t reduce the total number of murderers. You have to murder more than one, but then you’re a serial killer, which is arguably worse. If you’re a serial killer who only kills serial killers, then you are starting to maximize the offset. But once you fuck up and get close to being caught, so your serial killer girlfriend blows up Doakes to keep your secret safe and you pin all your murders on him, you’ve gone too far.

Just don’t try to tell me it’s fucking “uncured.”

He’s featured in an episode of What If…? and he makes a cameo in the GotG3. It could make for a great holiday special.

I mean, that’s kinda what they said about Lost, but then they had to fill 3 seasons because the network wasn’t ready to end it, and by the time they got to the end, everyone had guessed the twist and it went out with a whimper.

Of course we’ve had other terrible endings to massive shows since then, so

Ask yourself a question, have you ever heard of a toddler accidentally shooting someone with a bow? Firing a gun is so easy that you have to keep them away from babies or the babies are likely to kill themselves.

Are you using superglue to close cuts on your fingertips? Or are you trying to create a thick pad of glue to act as a protective layer? Do you already have a blister or cut? Or are you trying to prevent one?

To close a cut or cover a blister, superglue works in a pinch.

As padding to avoid blisters or cuts, it doesn’t really work. If you’re playing enough to cause a new blister, it just cracks and flakes off anyway. It might get you through a song if you’re desperate. Long term, you’re better off getting your fingers calliused and learning to play with different fingerings to take the pressure off an injury.

Pros have to go on stage and play. If you’re playing for yourself, for fun, you can take a few days off and let your fingertips heal.

Ok, well, this meme was about you and I’m sorry we all hurt your feelings pointing out you’re not helping. I did my best to help you understand, but if you prefer to continue to be the asshole, then I hope you have the life you deserve.

Why would you assume that they are giving up just because they didn’t take your advice?

Okey dokey, I’ll spell it out for you again, on the off chance this sticks this time around. Previously I was speaking generally, but this deep into the thread it’s just you and me, so I’ll try to be more direct.

You’re the asshole this meme is referring to.

You are the cat, Tom (if you’re unfamiliar with the cartoon). You’re angry at me because you think I don’t understand you, and if I did understand you, I’d realize you are just trying to help. I fully understand what you’re saying, and I understand you think you’re helping, and I understand you think you should offer advice to neurodivergent people struggling to coexist with you.

That is precisely why you are the asshole.

It does not matter if your intentions are sincere.

I’m going to repeat that, because you don’t seem to be listening very well and it’s important.

IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOUR INTENTIONS ARE SINCERE.

It doesn’t matter if your advice is good advice. It doesn’t matter if your advice might work.

Telling a person with ADHD, a medical condition that makes it difficult to do things that seem simple to neurotypical people, to “just make a list and do one step at a time” is callous, myopic, and, at least in your case, obstinate.

You’re being told that your advice is unwanted, and you’re like “but what advice am I supposed to give? How am I supposed to fix you if you don’t want my help? Why won’t you just tell me what I can say that will fix you so that I can say it to some other neurodivergent person I work with to fix them? I’m losing clients over here, I need an answer to fix this.”

There isn’t a single, simple fix that works for everyone. There are techniques and methods that can help, but you’re asking the wrong question. The question isn’t “what advice can I give someone?” The question is, “how can I help?” You see how that’s a different question?

I can’t tell you what to say to your coworker, because I don’t know what will help them. And this is critical for you to understand, neither do you. Making “just” suggestions, like the ones in the example, are based on your presumptions that the person 1) hasn’t thought of those things, 2) would benefit from doing those things, and 3) wants you to be the one to solve their neurological condition. Even if all of those things are true, making those presumptions still makes you the asshole in the situation.

And if you still don’t see how, then maybe I’m not the only neurodivergent person in this conversation.

That’s a actually apt. You don’t know if they tried prosthetics, if they have prosthetics, or if prosthetics would even help. You’re not a doctor, and you’re not their doctor, and you say “just 3d print a new leg” because you saw someone do that in a new article.

Wearing a prosthetic leg can be taxing, and painful, and destabilizing. It requires a whole apparatus and special exercises, and balancing on two would likely require crutches as well.

Most of all, the person you’re talking to probably knows more about their condition and their options than you do. So saying “just get prosthetics” is not a helpful suggestion at all.

Someone with ADHD who rejects your “helpful” advice isn’t choosing to remain unhelped. They’re saying you’re an asshole for thinking you’re the first person to come up with “just keep a calandar. That’s what works for me.”

Nothing you said didn’t make sense. You’re just missing the point. Which more or less was my point, so thanks for serving as an example.

I’m not sure if that’s irony or projection.

Start over from the top and try reading the whole thing again. But this time, just try to comprehend what I was saying.

What was your single cure-all suggestion to your colleague that fixed him?

You help by talking with them to uncover the root of the problem and working with them to avoid it in the future. There isn’t going to be a simple fix that guarantees it won’t happen again. “Just install an app” isn’t treatment.

Right, my point is that the unhelpful bit is assuming you can solve it with one suggestion. “Just set an alarm” is condescending and frustrating to receive as advice. I know about alarms, and even if I had anticipated needing a reminder, I might have simply forgotten to set one. Or maybe I had an alarm, but missed it because I was distracted by something else going on.