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Cake day: October 14th, 2025

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  • American here who just immigrated to Japan with my Japanese spouse and mixed child 2 months ago. We left for our family’s safety, and are very happy with the decision.

    I will say though: if you don’t have any Japanese family members moving with you, living in Japan can be very difficult. I have JLPT N1 certification, have lived and worked here for 6 years previously, and am very comfortable speaking/reading/writing Japanese, but I wouldn’t try to live here long term without my spouse… it’s just… tough. People here have never been terribly welcoming of non-Japanese, and with the recent surge in popularity of the openly anti-immigrant Sanseito party (gained 13 seats in the upper house last year), it’s not looking great for us foreigners here.

    Still, for US, this felt like the safer option compared to the states right now.

    I know this isn’t a cut and clear answer to your question, but just hoping I can provide some context from personal experience to help you make an educated decision for own unique situation.


  • Personally, I think your parents should be allowed to make their own decision about what religion and/or spirituality they want to adopt.

    The reason they’re gravitating toward the religion is likely because the divorce has left them with an emotional hole. They’re finding love and compassion in the message of the religion, and probably some more compassion and companionship from fellow members of the religion.

    While the message from the leaders may well be a ruse to hook people and get their money, the perceived benefits and actual fellowship are going to be hard for you to compete with. Especially so if you’re approaching it from the “all of you are batshit crazy” angle.

    I think if you really want to help your parent, the best option would be to find a way to provide them even more love, compassion, and companionship than the church gives them. Then they might consider listening to your opinions on organized religion at some point later down the line after they’ve had time to heal from the emotional trauma that comes with divorce. This may also be a good strategy to help yourself if you’re feeling affected by the change too.






  • What I did:

    Deleted the app. I still go directly to the subreddit pages I want to see (in a browser), but without logging in, and without ever looking at the home feed.

    I haven’t commented on Reddit or used the app in months now. TBH, I’m even annoyed I have to go over there for my niche subs, because I hate the advertisements. I really do enjoy lemmy more than Reddit now.








  • I have a dog, and have seen him experience suffering. It breaks my heart to see it happen, and I would never do anything to intentionally cause him to suffer.

    Yet by eating beef, pork, and chicken I supported an industry that causes similarly intelligent animals extreme suffering for their entire lives.

    I’m a pescatarian for this very reason. And even as a pescatarian, I strive to eat only wild caught fish when I do eat them. I also only eat certified humane eggs, and only buy oat milk or almond milk.

    I’m still guilty of eating cheese, but if there was a certified humane cheese option, I would absolutely pay extra for it.

    We don’t have to cause all this unnecessary suffering for animals. We can get all of our food from other sources, or take it from animals in a humane way.