You have a victim mentality, why? You keep making statements about how you think people will respond, why when you aren’t psychic?
Have you thought about whether your views are actually driven by discomfort/disdain rather than actual experience with trans people IRL?
One of my babysitters was 6’8” and naturally stronger than most men. Should she have been forced to play on the men’s basketball team because of that advantage? A lot if the so called advantages a transwoman naturally would have she had (she was a professional athlete as an adult).
Im sorry for your cousin but Im not sure why you think it was the trans community that killed her rather than her being a victim if her own mental illnesses. The fact that you are blaming them might be something you want to talk to someone about because it seems like you are carrying onto anger.
You did say you were an open book and that’s why Im asking this because when I said I didn’t think you were a troll looking to JAQ off or sealion I meant it. This is the kind of thing that raises those questions.
Please talk to someone if you can about your cousin. You seem to still be hurting over her death.
I keep making those comments about how people are going to respond around here because that’s how they keep responding.
I have noticed that comments or posts that had lots of upvotes will lose upvotes even on older comments in different threads on unrelated topics. Even comments I have made that align 100% with someone’s sentiment will get downvoted because of a comment I left elsewhere that they disagreed with.
Not to mention several people have outright told me they stalked my profile, looked at all my comments, checked to see how old my account was. They seem to be doing this in an attempt to discredit me because my account is new. Or they have no good rebuttal for our current conversation so they go find some other comment I made that they didn’t like and try to use that against me.
It’s very concerning behavior and it’s seemingly done by the majority of Lemmy users. I never look at anyones account age. I don’t dig through their old comments. I just have whatever conversation they are having with me in that thread and I move on.
Like I said. I am not going to discuss the trans athletes thing. You guys (yes I recognize I am generalizing because I have had this conversation so many times before with so many people) believe that you are 100% morally correct and scientifically correct so you go into the conversation already looking down on anyone that doesn’t agree.
She was lonely and sad. They lifted her up. When she changed her mind they shot her down. Friends don’t cut you off when you change your mind about what you want to do with your own body. Especially so called “allies”. I have seen it elsewhere as well. I know Lemmy users hate reddit, but take a gander at the r/detrans sub. Talk to some of those users. They will tell you that they have never received any hate like the hate they got when they decided to detransition. I know that not all trans communities are going to be like that, but the loud ones certainly seem to be that way. Allies and love until you decide you want out. Then you are dead to them. I don’t think they directly killed her or anything, but they absolutely had a hand in it. If they had supported her detransition who knows if she would still be around. Losing your entire friend and support group over night is debilitating to most people.
I have talked to many someone’s over the years. Not about her death specifically but I have been seeing therapists on and off for most of my life. I find most therapists to be completely useless. They have never actually helped me with anything. I keep searching for one that will actually do anything, but so far I’ve either had bad luck or my type of problems can’t be resolved with traditional therapy. They always tell me things I already know about myself and they give me solutions I already know how to utilize or are known to be ineffective for me. I appreciate the concern but death has never really bothered me. I was happy for my cousin and my aunt. Not because I wanted them dead or anything, but because they are both finally at peace. They had both been struggling for so long, but now they aren’t.
My mom and sister took it really hard but they had each other to rely on at that time. My brother and I both have much less emotion around death and loss. Not really sure why but it is what it is.
You have a victim mentality, why? You keep making statements about how you think people will respond, why when you aren’t psychic?
Have you thought about whether your views are actually driven by discomfort/disdain rather than actual experience with trans people IRL?
One of my babysitters was 6’8” and naturally stronger than most men. Should she have been forced to play on the men’s basketball team because of that advantage? A lot if the so called advantages a transwoman naturally would have she had (she was a professional athlete as an adult).
Im sorry for your cousin but Im not sure why you think it was the trans community that killed her rather than her being a victim if her own mental illnesses. The fact that you are blaming them might be something you want to talk to someone about because it seems like you are carrying onto anger.
You did say you were an open book and that’s why Im asking this because when I said I didn’t think you were a troll looking to JAQ off or sealion I meant it. This is the kind of thing that raises those questions.
Please talk to someone if you can about your cousin. You seem to still be hurting over her death.
I keep making those comments about how people are going to respond around here because that’s how they keep responding.
I have noticed that comments or posts that had lots of upvotes will lose upvotes even on older comments in different threads on unrelated topics. Even comments I have made that align 100% with someone’s sentiment will get downvoted because of a comment I left elsewhere that they disagreed with.
Not to mention several people have outright told me they stalked my profile, looked at all my comments, checked to see how old my account was. They seem to be doing this in an attempt to discredit me because my account is new. Or they have no good rebuttal for our current conversation so they go find some other comment I made that they didn’t like and try to use that against me.
It’s very concerning behavior and it’s seemingly done by the majority of Lemmy users. I never look at anyones account age. I don’t dig through their old comments. I just have whatever conversation they are having with me in that thread and I move on.
Like I said. I am not going to discuss the trans athletes thing. You guys (yes I recognize I am generalizing because I have had this conversation so many times before with so many people) believe that you are 100% morally correct and scientifically correct so you go into the conversation already looking down on anyone that doesn’t agree.
She was lonely and sad. They lifted her up. When she changed her mind they shot her down. Friends don’t cut you off when you change your mind about what you want to do with your own body. Especially so called “allies”. I have seen it elsewhere as well. I know Lemmy users hate reddit, but take a gander at the r/detrans sub. Talk to some of those users. They will tell you that they have never received any hate like the hate they got when they decided to detransition. I know that not all trans communities are going to be like that, but the loud ones certainly seem to be that way. Allies and love until you decide you want out. Then you are dead to them. I don’t think they directly killed her or anything, but they absolutely had a hand in it. If they had supported her detransition who knows if she would still be around. Losing your entire friend and support group over night is debilitating to most people.
I have talked to many someone’s over the years. Not about her death specifically but I have been seeing therapists on and off for most of my life. I find most therapists to be completely useless. They have never actually helped me with anything. I keep searching for one that will actually do anything, but so far I’ve either had bad luck or my type of problems can’t be resolved with traditional therapy. They always tell me things I already know about myself and they give me solutions I already know how to utilize or are known to be ineffective for me. I appreciate the concern but death has never really bothered me. I was happy for my cousin and my aunt. Not because I wanted them dead or anything, but because they are both finally at peace. They had both been struggling for so long, but now they aren’t.
My mom and sister took it really hard but they had each other to rely on at that time. My brother and I both have much less emotion around death and loss. Not really sure why but it is what it is.