A cranky biologist who means well. My hobbies include long walks off short piers and anything science related.

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Cake day: June 25th, 2023

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  • The way it is playing out in my family has led me to have to totally reevaluate my perception of my own father.

    He is a generally kind man. He stayed with my mom for two decades as she declined with Parkinson’s. He took good care of her when so many people might have ghosted.

    But based on his inability to see the danger here to things he himself values, I can no longer think of him as a good man. He has always valued knowledge and reason yet he swallowed the cat-eating crap out of Ohio in spite of the clear bullshit of it.

    He is Mormon and very faithful. So I don’t know what he gets out of this all, except that it has required me to grieve him before his passing.

    He is not actually a good person I am afraid, but he is very obedient. Learning that distinction is very painful. He does not possess the moral clarity to know the difference between what is legal/popular and what is right.

    I always idolized my dad as a child because he was in so many ways a good father. We will probably never speak again.





  • I think it would depend on our previous interactions.  Think of texting. When you barely know someone and you text them, it’s usually straight forward ’who, what, when, where, how’ sorts of info. But when you text an old friend you may allude to old inside jokes or other ’insider’ references that would be ambiguous to a stranger. You ‘hallucinate’ to fill in the meaning from previous context.

    Thus a text from a good friend entails more ‘hallucination’ than a text from a new work colleague.