For PIV sex, I need to be aware of my angle so I don’t ding her cervix. She also needs to be very turned on and lubed up before I can go in due to my girth. So no quickies unless she’s really horny already (which is rare due to life stress).

I hear you man, same boat. I’m looking into CBD oils/vapes to help her relax (alas, in a country where pot is illegal).