Insane expectations being placed on women around beauty and appearance, and the resulting insecurities that creates, play a big role in this

The whole question of double standards is in a sense, asking about common unhealthy traits

It’s not entirely on you. Accusing you of mansplaining is not cool, she should’ve just said something like “i’m sharing this because I’m looking for emotional support, not solutions, so please stop trying to solve my problems when I’m just venting”.

In a sense, how people react to having problems shared with them is a cultural difference, neither is right or wrong but they can be jarring and confusing when you’re used to one culture but interact with a different one. But it’s not fair to just assume the other culture is acting in bad faith

No

I switched to arkenfox since the librewolf package lagged a bit on arch and I didn’t want to build myself. If sites really break bad (usually I can get around it by disabling some ublock settings), I just open a blank firefox profile

There’s also arkenfox or librewolf

Does it matter if someone has integrity if they always do the right thing?

Oh yeah I do this, I’ll raise you that mine also sshs into my server to update the editor theme

Hey that’s pretty good, I’m gonna steal it. It might even be worth making a pullrequest to update swaylock to have a flag to do this, I use waybar and it has a lock inhibit button that I use before I start watching anything, but automating it like this is seems super nice

wait till they’re under the water to say that

Or use spotify from the browser

I agree even a little bit of alcohol is unhealthy, but that’s backed up by the science on the topic. Classic psychedelics (shrooms, lsd, mescaline) are extremely safe tho, less impactful to health than an unhealthy meal. If health is that important to you, at least have a consistent and evidence based perspective on it.

Complimenting appearance everyday is a misguided thing to promise, it’s better to compliment things people have more direct control over, and it’s better to understand the person and their love languages and show love in a way that they’ll appreciate the most. Never looking at another woman sexually is an impossible standard which you’re better off not promising.

Marceline/Bubblegum vibes

If you really are a tren goblin you should stop taking unhealthy recreational drugs before you worry about drugs other people use. Like another user said, don’t expect anything you can’t bring to the table for them.

Also, the health of recreational drug use varies wildly. Having one drink of alcohol each night is different to getting very drunk every friday and saturday is different to going on cocaine benders every weekend is different to smoking a bit of weed after work is different to tripping on shrooms once or twice a month. Some of those have huge negative side effects on health, some have zero impact.

Cause they’ll never get to see her do this?

Yeah I had no idea. It’d be fun to tell kids that if you eat them they’ll pop in their belly, similar to the watermelon seeds growing one

Qr code to the nongolfers subreddit, or the lemmy community if there is one, so she can see the error in her golfing ways

Yeah I only really use it for personal stuff for that reason. There’s a vscode plugin, but last time I tried it it was really slow

A keyboard and terminal based text editor, similar in some ways to neovim, vim, and vi

Agree on all counts. I didn’t like finding and comparing plugins for neovim, and then wrestling with environment stuff to get them to work, and having to change a bunch of options to get nvim to work how I want. With helix, my config of things I’ve changed from default is very small, and there’s no wrestling with plugins.

And yeah, “select then act” feels a lot smoother and more intuitive to me. If you like that and like plugins tho, check out kakuone