Blue collar dudes yell into cellphones. Doesn’t matter how smart. They just do. It used to drive me nuts but I get it now.

Prepared to be roasted alive for this opinion but studies (undoubtedly of white, middle class, US undergrads) seem to indicate women find clutter and messes more psychologically distressing than men do.

I’m a man but I’ve had many deadbeat guys as roommates and I am definitely far more bothered by messes and clutter than they were so I kind of get this.

If you are the “mind it more” person, you will find yourself rage cleaning because the other person can wait you out as long as they want if they are taking you for granted and not concerned you’ll leave over this.

So there are two toxic traits here:

1. A willingness to wait out chores even if you know it’s angering people you are with.

2. A kind of willful blindness. “Honestly, I didn’t think it was that bad.”

The second one might be worse.

The first is excusable (plausible deniability) with the “men are oblivious” defense if the aggrieved party is not being overt in their request that a chore be done.

The second is a person (some women obviously do this, too) refusing to learn to empathize and recognize when things are getting to the point where it’s bothering the other person. From an interpersonal perspective this is probably more infuriating over the years.

For a long time I ssh’d into my vps to manage tasks and notes in emacs and even play dwarf fortress.

With utilities like screen you can rejoin sessions anywhere, etc.

Have you tried this?

Never tried to get a GUI running like this.

I have a sleep disorder. I can no longer nap, have alcohol (at all), caffeine after 9am, and so on.

I also love napping and have napped my entire life when possible until recently.

Since I can’t nap anymore without ruining my sleep I now sit or lay quietly with my eyes closed and just rest. I set an alarm for 5-10 minutes and snooze for a few minutes over and over until I “get up”. I never really fall asleep so (reluctantly) ending this rest period is not that hard.

This doesn’t give you that same rested feeling but I can destress, lower anxiety, and so on. This absolutely has led to me sleeping more deeply at night, getting drowsy before bed, etc.

A little like meditation but mostly just taking a break.

That’s just wild. I’m in meetings with slides constantly and never heard of this. We’ll, now I have a new rabbit hole to go down (as in “finding the most ridiculous of these”).

With each year that passes since the re-telling it gets exponentially more interesting.

Do… do people really buy add-ons for pp to enhance their slide decks?

Just do a bit of the inside of a cuff or the underside of a hem.

Back in the day I used to spray my coat with automotive silicone. Doesn’t look great but your not getting wet.

Imagine that feeling on your temple. Some people get mild headaches. I can tolerate it but it kind of feels sore after 30 minutes or so. Personal preference, I guess.

I really think people think no one will notice. If you are stealing time and resources from your employer, you probably lack respect for them or have an inflated sense of your importance or expertise.

That… never occurred to me. I am not sure if I can personally but if I can’t maybe a watch repair place could. Thank you, kind stranger!

Just to piggyback, this is a common way to deliver audio and is discrete but it drives some people nuts. There are lots of inexpensive bt headsets that use this. I’d try one before I spent a lot of money.

Yes I might but was hoping to resolve this with them amicably first. I work for a high volume ecommerce business and we have customers doing this even as we are working to refund them so I try not use this if I can help it (it’s a tiny, tiny percentage of transactions before people start saying we must be terrible at customer service).

I’ll try that. I spent weeks going back and forth with swatch support sending detailed info and pics, then they sent me the “bigger” band and it was same as what we had. Also out $50 some for the strap. Sigh.

You should probably lock your door when sleeping down the hall from him.

The band (not Jim) was the talent for sure. But as someone who was born in '72, I did enter teen years viewing him as the personification of Dionysus (which he cultivated). As an adult, I have no doubt he was an insufferable ass. :)

I have a beloved swatch from the nineties I am trying to expand the band on for my brother (he has MS so I’m trying to help with this as he has a hard time with phone calls, emails, and so on). Even swatch said all they could do was provide a larger band which was the same size (I am out $50 and they are not responding to my emails asking for a refund or replacement).

I’d love advice on this too!

You are probably very new to working in IT/programming if this shocks you and a clause like this is new to you.

I would ask myself how much a regular salary is worth over the value of a “maybe” idea you are not committed to already.

My personal advice is spend your time and energy honing your skills to increase your leverage with employers. When you are ready to take an idea to market you’ll need to understand how businesses work, etc. You can learn that at work. Pay attention to everything.

You could not enforce “everything you do is ours” in Canada. You cannot write a contract that overrides employment law. Seems crazy you could do that but maybe US legislation allows it. I can see this, especially in states that are more “pro employer”.

I have signed several of these. If you do it on company time or with company resources, it’s theirs. If you do it on your own time with your own stuff, it’s yours.

You may or may not be shocked to learn how many “personal projects” get done when people are supposed to be doing the work they get paid for or with resources they are effectively stealing from their employer. This isn’t some evil corporate attempt to steal your brilliant work. They are trying to make sure that when you are at work using their stuff you are doing your actual job.

If you have your own things you want to pitch as products you will be giving over the rights to that the minute you work on it on company time with company resources.

If your ideas are good, save money, quit, start a start up, and use your connections to make a good deal with them (sell it to them). Or wait until you are a vested shareholder.