Rob’s is assuming he 1) sees everything, 2).didn’t or can’t miss anything important, and 3) that his interpretation is correct.
That’s why it’s arrogant and stupid and people get annoyed.
Seriously, have you never been upset or hurt and had someone try to tell you that you’re not?
Why do people tap their breaks in the left lane when passing someone slower on the right?
Please stop. Tap your breaks if you’re signaling something going on in front, or if you need to slow down faster than just taking your foot off the gas will slow you.
Butter is a little looser - the dough clumps around the chips but otherwise it’s pretty smooth. Too much sugar is stiffer, and it’s kind of folded over itself in places.
We can’t even trust employers to not steal wages, sexually harass, or be decent humans to adult workers. There’s no way a literal child should be expected to hold their own in an employee/employer relationship.
I’m finding out that I’m codependent. I avoided this term for a long time because of connotations I had of it with “co-addiction” but really, it is a situation like what you describe - I provide help all the time, and I never ask for or feel like I can accept it. I have so many instances in my past of help coming with strings, or being massively let down, or just being slammed with other people’s incompetence that it makes me physically uncomfortable. All of this stems from and reinforces the idea that I have to be responsible because everyone else around me is being messy and useless.
Long story short - ask for help anyway. Even when it feels like shit, you have to get used to it. Like others have said, be specific and direct, and accept the idea that they may say no, and it probably isn’t personal. “I need help with…” doesn’t work unless it includes, “Can you help me with this?”
Damocles by SG Redling.
Basically, humans make first contact by going elsewhere.
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It also drives home the point to anyone in a position of authority and responsibility: you will be asked to make compromises. You will be asked to make sacrifices. You must be willing to accept your own responsibility in that decision making, because you put yourself in position to do so.
Sometimes, when faced with only negative choices, you have to be willing to accept the stain of the least evil of them.
Kind of like every American president is an unindicted war criminal. We can imagine that most, if not all, of them didn’t go into it to commit evil acts, but they had to be ready to do so if the other options were worse based on whatever calculus they were able to do at the time.
I think it’s safe to assume that OP is venting frustration.
But you know what? If you used this kind of energy to attack the monied interstate that are bleeding is all dry, instead of the frustrated not to no normal person who doesn’t want to keep paying someone else’s inflated mortgage, maybe things would get better.
This is a sign that they truly believe it’s “the magic word.”
I think that’s the attitude. Please should mean something. Thank you should mean something. But when you grew up being told to say it just to get what you want, then that’s all it means to you.
I loved mine, but eventually they started rejecting. But instead of being pushed out, it was like my skin was repeatedly cracking while trying to absorb them. Sucks, because they looked great.
Because most religious conservatives don’t think beyond “what is acceptable to my group” and do that. Or appear to do that. And not rocking the boat is highly valued in those communities, so people who want to abuse others financially find ripe ground for it.
Because most religious conservatives don’t think beyond “what is acceptable to my group” and do that. Or appear to do that. And not rocking the boat is highly valued in those communities, so people who want to abuse others financially find ripe ground for it.
Advertising is a huge waste of societal resources.
Think about it: what’s the actual point of advertising, from the consumer’s point of view? I would argue it’s to get notified of available products, and why you might want that product.
But that’s not what advertising does 99% of the time, now. Advertising now is a collection of products that you already know exist, have probably already looked at, but now you’re getting spammed. Because they aren’t trying to educate you as a consumer - they’re trying to use exposure to trick you into buying their particular product instead of someone else’s identical product.
If you look at the total GDP that goes to advertising, it’s frankly insane. It’s lost 20%. Add finance into that, and most of our GDP is centered around meta-economics rather than stuff people want/need/will use.
They sell your transaction history to advertisers.
“I have nothing to hide.”
Until regressives make normal shit illegal, as they often try to do.
Centralized vs decentralized is a structural decision.
Censorship is what can be done within that structure. Centralized censorship means one group is able to block content, whereas decentralized “censorship” means that you can go to another platform with little to no fuss.
I use quotations because censorship is when you censor someone and stop their message from being seen, which you cannot do in federation. No one is required to megaphone info or opinions they don’t want to share, so it’s not really censorship to block content on your own instance.
Look at historical examples like the Serene Republic of Venice.
Basically you have an oligopoly that controls the levers of power and elects one of their own to be the leader.
Also read up on selectorate theory. There’s a good book called The Dictator’s Handbook that goes into detail, and for a shorter way to consume this info you can watch the YouTube video Rules for Rulers which is based on the same book.
All governments are nested resources distribution streams. Resources flow up to the decision maker, which then distributes resources back down the chain to buy loyalty to maintain power. Regimes change when one side or the other experiences a major disruption.
Exactly. I’m thankful to have sick leave, and mine doesn’t expire, so I don’t have an incentive to use it when I’m not actually feeling like trash.
Most people consider conversations ended if neither party adds anything for a space of time.
A reasonable space of time is definitely overnight.