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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • New Year’s Eve, a number of years ago. Wife and I went to a bar with some friends and rang in the New Year. I think she and I maybe smoked a pack between the two of us that night. Next day, both of us felt sick to our stomachs. Really nauseous, and just terrible. We didn’t get that drunk, so it wasn’t a bad hangover or anything. Anyway, just the thought of a cigarette made both of us even more nauseous. Flash forward a week, and neither one of us had spoken about not having smoked, and we didn’t want another cigarette. A week later, wife confirmed to me that she hadn’t had any at work. I said the same to her. Years later, we haven’t had any either.

    Now we’re “ex-smokers,” who I think are the worst for smokers to be around. We’re hyper-sensitive to the smell and smoky rooms.






  • So I got back to my server, and here’s what I do:

    gluetun settings:

    services:
      gluetun:
    *snip*
        ports:
    *snip*
          - 8090:8090 # port for qbittorrent
    *snip*
    

    qbittorrent (in the same compose.yml):

      qbittorrent:
        image: linuxserver/qbittorrent:latest
        container_name: qbittorrent
        environment:
    *snip*
          - WEBUI_PORT=8090
    *snip*
        network_mode: service:gluetun # run on the vpn network
        depends_on:
          gluetun:
            condition: service_healthy
    *snip*
    

    Also, in qbittorrent settings you can bind it to a network device. In my case it’s “tun0.” This same thing can probably be done w/ a docker network in a gluetun container and separate containers that rely on that network being up, but I haven’t looked into it. Right now, I have 2 other services that require VPN, and I’m looking at possibly 1 or 2 more. That’s pretty manageable as a single stack, I think.







  • My parents helped through college, and then I went out on my own. The help was still available, though. In my early 30’s, I moved back in with them because I had taken a job in the town where they lived. It was supposed to be temporary, but they saw that my financial situation needed them to step in, so they offered to let me stay and pay them a small rent (basically to cover bills and food). That was a huge help! 2-years later and I was mostly debt free (only student loans and a small car loan left), and taking a new job further away from them.

    Long story short, I think parents should help when they can, and if the situation warrants it. There’s something to be said for letting your kids fail on their own. They learn more than you can teach them that way. But, while it’s good to help them, it’s also important that they recognize the help they’ve received. Knowing that outside help got them where they are is a Good Thing. It helps make them more empathetic to others who maybe don’t have the same support system.

    ETA: the student loans were very low interest rate, back when that was a thing.