Bicycling and water jogging are both great but the former is far more accessible. Flat pedals are better if you’re injured/recovering since you can adjust your foot positioning (if clipless aren’t dialed in right you’re kinda locked in and can exacerbate injury, and if you don’t unclip in time you fall over). Padded gloves to keep vibration from aggravating things. I was in a boot for 6 months from a gnarly stress fracture but my doc cleared me for biking and I basically lived on a bike.

Also range of motion, biking helps for that since you’re constantly articulating your ankles and loosening up the ‘rust’. Trace the alphabet with your toes a couple times a day to stay on the up and up.

Check with doc ofc, and might help to get bloodwork so see if you’re deficient in anything and also see if there’s some root cause if you’re injury prone. Turns out I had a vitamin D deficiency so I started taking a ton of D+K2, couple years later I got back into running and building up mileage pretty realistically and went couch to 50k in 8 months, before that I was always getting injured. Not saying it’s specifically that, could be lots of things or nothing, but in my case I found that thing out and the sky was the limit afterwords. It’d be cool if it was some overlooked thing like that for you

Fun hammer fact: it’s called dead blow not because it’s supremely powerful or anything, but because the head is usually full of loose material like BBs, and it causes the hammer to not bounce back as much, kinda like throwing a hackey sack at the floor

Now I’m thinking of a hammer tier list. Milled face framing hammer is clearly S-tier because you get to leave your mark

It got the ‘trendy buzzword treatment’. There was a time when people were using it pretty heavily to describe professionals with specific skillsets and expertise sent to foreign (usually emerging) markets where hiring locals might be spotty. There was a time when, if an expat asked a local where expats hung out, the locals would interpret it as them asking where the foreign professionals would hang out, and usually they’d all talk shop/share experiences, that kind of thing.

There are of course multiple definitions but the corporate world started flinging it around like such. If you were chosen to be an expat you were basically ‘A team’ material - smart, reliable, trusted with a generous amount of autonomy, that kind of thing.

But it conveyed some sort of prestige, like ‘entrepreneur’. Now lots of people use it loosely as a colloquialism to describe anyone from a dyed-in-the-wool immigrant to someone who took a 6 month sabbatical to have an extended vacation on a sunny beach

Also:

Endless redirects that attempt to keep you on the site when you want to nope right out and click the back button

That’s probably more helpful than you think. It’s often a little discouraging to be out there and watching most of the world just pass by with indifference. Even a couple chirps of a car horn or a high five from a passing stranger helps

I just learned today since I’ve never been compelled to look up any sort of conversion chart, but I had a hunch because dress/pants sizes are all over the place. One brand’s mostly-honest 12 is another brand’s flattering 4, shit like that

I actually landed on the deer and it got up without kicking me, but in my thoroughly concussed state I thought the best course of action was to just make some huge stream of thought facebook post and basically narrate my ordeal lol

But yeah I had a rottweiler-sized bruise on the left side of my body, shit was gnarly. It was a long ass night

Probably that I got charged by a deer in the middle of fucking nowhere on the tail end of a solo 150 mile gravel bike ride, Macguyvered that thing and rode home. That actually surprises me lol

I wasn’t an athletic or tough kid by any stretch (smallest kid in class and asthma to top it off) so he’d probably get a kick out of me running ultras, biking through mud 150 miles at a time, ditching the car and running to work

How do you condition someone to be loyal/obedient and not a liability? You haze them with the implication that a whole lot worse could happen, and then you test them. “You gotta promise not to tell anyone this, I’m trusting you” usually loosely translates to “I just told you something bogus and everyone is listening to see if you’re gonna spill the beans, and if so we’ll beat the everliving shit out of you until you learn”

Since you’re married, I consider the bar for ‘red flag’ to be quite a bit higher, but the answer to this depends on some missing context.

It’s only a red flag if they have unreasonable expectations to the point that it’s harmful to either of you, and they aren’t willing to entertain the notion that the problem might not actually be the perceived lack of attention/companionship but rather the unreasonable amount they’re expecting.

Healthy relationships are founded on vulnerability, emotional intimacy, selflessness, being able to have real candid discussions on problems and come together to work towards a solution. It’s not that healthy relationships are always devoid of unhealthy things, it’s that the parties are willing to come together and fix the bad stuff.

That said, it’s not a red flag if they’re feeling this way due to totally unreasonable expectations, even if they’re convinced that the expectations are very reasonable, just so long as they’re able to acknowledge that your feelings matter too and that this is causing strife and it’s something they’re willing to at least try to find some sort of compromise or middle ground.

And it’s definitely not a red flag if they have very reasonable expectations by anyone’s standards and they simply aren’t being met.

But boil it down and the only red flag is if they or you would rather build a trench between you two rather than coming to the table willing to discuss how to navigate through it

The twin cities are great but 45 miles out in any direction and you’re in the land of pickup trucks and Trump flags. Or Wisconsin.

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Or just hang 600 yards of braided fishing line manja string everywhere and take a nap and then collect loot. Technical pacifism

It’s called sarcasm. We aren’t buying stuff because obvious reasons, and if we did we’d have to hide it for obvious reasons

I’m a federal employee and my wife’s a teacher so I’m trying to figure out how to very carefully and cautiously hide a PS5 Pro in the drywall and convince her I got a new controller for the Switch

I actually blocked most of those groups but one was some climate community on another instance. There was a post where someone asked what they could do personally to help prevent climate change, and it was full of political theory as a response.

Someone said they actively boycott Starbucks because the CEO flies a jet in order to commute to Seattle to California, and if the government won’t do anything they felt like the least they can do is just commit to never giving them and their lobbyists a single penny ever again.

And they were downvoted to like -20 and had a dozen people attacking them over shifting the blame from the corporations to the working class by framing it in such a way that the working class should have any responsibility for the actions of the corporation. It was like watching a bunch of picketers calling someone a scab.

And I’m just reading it like “what the fuck guys, you’re sitting around discussing political strategies that have so far done absolutely nothing, they’re doing something, they have a point, the lobbyists make the laws, so defunding the lobbyists does make a lot of sense. He’s flying in a jet to work because people give him money, helllLLLOOOooo.”

Someone even went so far as to argue that a lot of people need to go to Starbucks because they might need a quiet space to study or hang out, so I jumped in pointing out that most municipalities have a library at the minimum, and people were fine before coffee shops were everywhere, and I got downvoted and jumped on by half a dozen people for not understanding the plight of others.

Homeless people need somewhere to go, so I’m an asshole for suggesting that other people could go to Starbucks less? Beats the hell out of me

In some climate forum, for no reason other than to win a stupid internet argument over the responsibility of emissions, everyone began defending the necessity of Starbucks of all things. Seriously. And at the same time, consumers shouldn’t have to endure hardships for the climate because they should instead focus on affecting policy, in order for places like Starbucks to change, because they’re fucking horrible. In my mind I was just like “well are corporations good or bad, or at the moment are they just convenient as both in order to use that person as a punching bag?” but noped right out.

It was basically a rat’s nest of tangled up incongruent statements that all led back to ‘fuck that person for saying they make a very small effort to do something towards a corporation as opposed to attempting to reshape politics’

So yeah, shit like that.

Maybe a simple “while I disagree with A due to B, it does have some merit because of C. But in my opinion I think D is more effective, and if you’d like to learn more about D, here are some resources! :)”

A lot of communities on Lemmy have a ‘scene kid’ subculture and they will just harass people right off the platform for not being true enough to the cause, despite being for the cause.

You got a bunch of raindrops. They want to become a hurricane. They simply need a warm breeze but shit blows sideways instead. The corners of Lemmy where movements could be happening are basically mosh pits

I’m not trying to argue with you or correct you or anything, just pointing out why this is bad, how it shouldn’t be as it is, but it’s on deaf ears to the people I’m lamenting about. And you’re correct, a 2nd Reddit would suck, but Lemmy could be better if those people were being better.

If there’s anything anyone mad about anything in the world should know, by know, don’t attack people on the same team, welcome them in

I don’t know if the ‘wanting is better than having’ trope is the best fit but it’s a decent fit and kind of caters to the social aspect of what you’re describing. You know, some shiny trendy new thing and everyone’s chasing after it and as people get it they’re sorely disappointed, but it doesn’t dissuade others one bit (sometimes the reaction from the initial acquirers causes even more appeal to those who don’t have it) , until everyone is all disappointed. And then the moral of the story plays out in the resolution

Lemmy has a toxic puddle problem. If your first experience with Lemmy is sauntering into a community and getting chased out for not agreeing with someone hard enough, something like that, you’ll probably just go back to Reddit and say ‘that place is full of whack jobs’.

And the default sort, kinda hard to dodge