Savaran

Well, just saying, what creaking bones I had in my 30s don’t even rate in comparison now

50s. Getting back to one’s 30s you’re still old enough for people to take you seriously, but the creaking bones and exhaustion hasn’t really started creeping in yet.

Except one is a useless celebrity that can be ignored into irrelevance, and the other is a Supreme Court justice with the direct ability to aid in destroying our democracy.

The point is this isn’t a quick thing. Go long enough in an environment as a regular and you’ll feel safer and more able to open up.

But if you’re going to argue with the advice provided then why ask?

So part of the coffee shop advice is true. Even if you feel it’s superficial to start. There’s actually a lot to be said for “fake it until you make it” type socialization. Showing up regularly at the same place, be kind to the staff, learn their names, and little by little you’ll find you start recognizing other regulars and the you. It’s okay for connections to start out not super real or deep, it still works those social muscles out. After that it’s just time investment.

The largest problem I see is that I would use reddit to keep up on local events, since at the time I preferred it to using Twitter or FB for the same. Now I avoid all three but the community that posted for the local stuff in my city didn’t move to Lemmy or Mastodon. I don’t have a way to post the local stuff myself because if I had a good way to keep track of it I wouldn’t have needed reddit for it in the first place!

Which I guess is just me unhappy that more of the communities didn’t move over, I really don’t have a solution to the problem. Other than continuing to engage here as often as I can and hoping for the best.

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If you know me you would have messaged in some format that is more reliable than calling on the phone.

If you called you either don’t know me or it’s important enough you can leave a message.

I always feel like folks who are using LinkedIn as actual social media where they post are doing it wrong. It’s useful for one specific thing and as soon as you start posting your daily thoughts or whatever then the whole thing falls apart.