Thank you, I appreciate it. I’m beginning to feel a little more confident. You brought up good points. I really wouldn’t want to be with someone who can’t accept we are pretty much a package deal even if I’m looking for a monogamous romantic partner. I do not and have not intend(ed) to continue any sexual stuff going forward (not that it’s often or anything) especially since this is how I feel. I was afraid to miss out on someone because of our complex relationship but my right person would be accepting.

I’ve been avoiding it because it will probably hurt us both but reading through these responses I am beginning to see that you’re right. Thanks for responding.

That’s not something I was ever considering. I’m definitely monogamous, and attracted to the opposite gender yes. While I know I can still love my friend and have a romantic partner, I couldn’t still share a bed or cuddle without feeling like it was cheating. We’re going to have to create boundaries, it was hard for me to think about and will be difficult to implement but it’s the right thing to do. Thanks for the response.

All very valid, I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. I just feel terrible and upset about creating this situation. I, perhaps we, did let the lines blur, I don’t blame either one of us for it. Convenience and familiarity dropped our guard. We were there for each other when we needed it but in hindsight it was foolish to let things go past physical barriers or maybe even emotionally without considering the future. At the time they moved in it was supposed to be temporary, I did miss that detail in my post. That’s no longer the case but we never revisited the topic of where things stand. It’s obvious to me now that I must say something. Thanks for your response.

I guess I am a bit of a coward. I do appreciate the comment. It’s a good point.

Yeah, I’ve thought about it. Things would definitely have to change before I started dating. I think what I didn’t consider is how long it might take to make those changes. That I couldn’t just jump into it now that I’m feeling ready.

Monica has come a long way, hate to see all the grief she still gets. I mean it takes two to cheat you know but does anyone give Bill shit? Not really.

Sure but why add to the problem? Why not carve out your own little slice and help the situation? Probably not going to hurt anything if you stop using pesticides and feed the bees where you can.

I only mow at the last possible second to not get a fine, has been working really well for my yard. I have seen flowers, corn, and a beautiful assortment of creepers and clovers start taking over the sterile grass. My neighbors neighbor seems to get butthurt. They take care of my direct neighbors yard whom I share a chain link fence with, she loves my vines with the flowers and strange gourds that wind around the fence. Neither of us planted it but the people who tend her yard destroy it 😭if we just let everything happen naturally some very cool things start to crop up. I’ve seen some absolutely massive grasshoppers and a bunch of praying mantis as well. My bee hotel never attracts anything but I’ve seen plenty of bees about which makes me happy.

Are we absolutely married to the idea that “upvotes” are orangered and “downvotes” are perrywinkle? I mean it works and we all understand the visual queue but lemmy has a chance to be different. Some people don’t even want to call them upvotes and downvotes anymore. Just my thoughts… So far, I like sync a lot! Though I have to agree with a few other users that the font is small but I kinda like it. I didn’t realize how much scrolling I did just to read something.