They are both equally important. However, we tend to judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior. Considering this, I think it’s important to continually try and understand the intentions of others, and consider how our actions might be interpreted by others.
Never heard it called a “bum-gun” before. Thank you for the mental image of someone pointing a supersoaker at their asshole. 😂
@Driftking@lemmy.ml What have you been telling these women?
Oh, I had no idea. Thank you.
I have a tickle phobia. My incredibly abusive ex boyfriend used it as a method of torture. It’s surprisingly effective. He would sit on top of me so I couldn’t escape and keep going and going. I just remember not being able to breathe and blind panic.
So yeah. Not a fan. Makes me have panic attacks.
I tried a bunch of different antidepressants. Lexapro, Zoloft, Prozac, Lamictal, Abilify. None of them helped, just kinda made me feel number and more tired. I gave up for a few years. Then I tried Celexa and it worked. It was like night and day. Holy shit, life is so much better now.
So try not to feel discouraged if you’ve tried medication and it didn’t help. There’s a ton out there, and more being developed all the time.
This is why I recommend dialectical behavioral therapy. It teaches mindfulness and radical acceptance to reframe your relationship with your emotions in a more healthy light, and also solid techniques for emotion regulation and distress tolerance. It helped me soooo much.
Edit to add: there is a lot of free DBT material on the internet that you can pursue without a therapist, if there are none available to you at the moment.
I’m reading this from beehaw, I believe we’re federated with lemmy.ml. But I don’t think we want him if he’s just gonna insult people without even articulating what’s bothering him.
My sister used to call the lottery a tax on stupid people.
On one hand, low rise jeans were a result of the beauty ideal at the time being “heroin chic,” which was undoubtedly harmful and caused many to develop eating disorders.
On the other hand, high waisted jeans are a result of the beauty ideal now being Kim Kardashian, which is still harmful (ask all the women out there with botched Brazilian butt lifts), not the least because the Kardashians lie about their bodies being natural so they can shill useless products.
Although having a small waist is still ideal, I’m glad the window has shifted back from the time when celebrities were slammed in every magazine as fat for looking like this.
I only had an account on kbin for a couple weeks before I got fed up with the trolls and bad faith arguments from other instances and jumped ship to beehaw.
Why not add a cash discount? Charge slightly more for credit card transactions to cover the fees. I actually wonder why more haven’t done this.
There are two Mattress Firms across the street from each other in my city. ???
This info doesn’t dox me, because I have learned this is the case in multiple cities.
I know this is a few days old, but thinking about it again, I’m reminded of this clip I saw from Orange is the New Black. To summarize, the clip is a flashback to explain how Suzanne (“Crazy Eyes”) wound up in prison. She’s an autistic woman whose sister/caretaker leaves her alone for a weekend, without arranging alternative care, to go on a vacation. She befriends a child, who she seems to connect with easily as they are on a similar mental level, and the kid follows her home to hang out and play video games. After the child says it’s time for him to go home, she becomes upset, blocking the front door to prevent him leaving. He attempts to call 911 and she grabs the phone and hangs up, confused, telling him that he should only call 911 for emergencies. Panicked, the child attempts to crawl out a window to escape, accidentally falling to his death.
What would you say is more important here, intention or perception? I think it depends on who you are. For the child’s parents, perception matters more. Their child is dead. That Suzanne didn’t intend for it to happen is of little consolation. For Suzanne, maybe intention matters the most. For the courts, both matter; she’s proven herself unsafe to be around to the public, yet the fact she didn’t intend to cause harm is supposed to be taken into account too, perhaps for lighter sentencing. In a better world, she would be given help instead of incarcerated because of her intention, and perhaps her caretaker would be held partially responsible.