• MissesAutumnRains@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    5 days ago

    If you combine them, you sometimes also get a degradation kink from your partner commenting on it.

    “Good girl.”

    uncomfortable/excited reaction

    “Pathetic. You can’t even accept a compliment?”

    even more ridiculous reactions

    • AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net
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      4 days ago

      I actually had a partner utilise this to excellent effect by writing on my body while I was tied down (tip: using a whiteboard pen means it washes off easily).

      We stumbled upon this idea after discussing the mild degradation kink that I had, and realising that most degrading language we could think of would likely make me feel sad. So instead, we ended up having him ask me for nice things about me that he could write (and for each one I gave, he would also add one of his own).

      It was a really interesting experience, because it did end up scratching the degradation itch I had felt — the act of writing stuff on me while I was tied up helped a lot. I’m not actually too bad at taking a compliment (I’m much more someone who is desperate for affirmation more than someone who struggles to take a compliment — although both of those instincts within me come from the same crippling insecurity)