When I was in 2nd grade, I was stuck in a corner for participating too much. This character flaw has followed me all my life. My ex told me people didn’t like me because I shared my thoughts too much, and I just got feedback from my boss about the same thing.
The thing is, I’ve tried to stop my whole life. I only participate maybe 10% of the time, and I generally try to let others speak first unless no one is speaking up. But I’m still getting this feedback. I’m like a bull in a china shop, knocking down everyone no matter how careful I try to be.
The only solution I can come up with is to assume no one wants to hear from me and disengage. Stop caring, stop thinking, and stop participating altogether. I already feel isolated from everyone. This is just making it worse. I think I have to face the fact that I’m not welcome in any degree.
Any other ideas?
Is this thing about really wanting to say something when you think of it a sign of ADHD?
Yeah, it’s one of the symptoms. Lots of people who otherwise don’t have ADHD do experience that same feeling, though. The best thing to do is to look at the other symptoms and see how well it seems to fit. Doesn’t have to be every symptom, but if 4-5 seem to fit it’s worth pursuing diagnosis imo.