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violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•a girl can never be hyperfeminine/sexual, chaotic, unfiltered online without ulterior motives allegations
204·6 hours agoCalling it “attention-seeking behavior” ignores the fact that this is just my posting style. You can go all the way back in my post history where I explicitly say I have a stream-of-consciousness approach: something crosses my mind, I look through my Insta saves for a meme that fits, and I share it.
Men never get asked to prove that they’re men or questioned like this.
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•a girl can never be hyperfeminine/sexual, chaotic, unfiltered online without ulterior motives allegations
2111·6 hours agoIt’s funny, comments like yours are exactly what I had in mind when I made this post in the first place. People can go wild with assumptions about my identity, but if I play into it for fun, suddenly I’m “seeking attention”? When men post like I do, people interact with the content; but when a woman posts, her entire behavior gets dissected and assumptions are made just to discredit her, no matter how harmless the content is.
And I wasn’t mocking anyone.
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•a girl can never be hyperfeminine/sexual, chaotic, unfiltered online without ulterior motives allegations
304·6 hours agoIf I had a nickel for every time someone wrote a relatively long comment analyzing my online behavior on here, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice.
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•planned date fell apart so i'm going clubbing wearing a see-through bra as a top with my girlfriends instead
30·1 day agopersonally it s very much a time and place thing. like if i’m wearing that to a place like a club i obviously want the attention and don’t mind anything as long as it doesn’t become dangerous. on the other hand if i’m just walking around during the day braless i expect subtlety.
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•planned date fell apart so i'm going clubbing wearing a see-through bra as a top with my girlfriends instead
711·1 day agofor anyone wondering the vibe is
a bra similar to this a stylish blazer + miniskirt + heels + bag jewelry
it’s high fashion slutty

violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•planned date fell apart so i'm going clubbing wearing a see-through bra as a top with my girlfriends instead
703·1 day agosorry, you’ll never see me post explicit stuff online🙂↔️
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Me: 2008, him: 1993, big red flag? What should I watch out for?
9·1 day agosigh… if you’d actually read that rule in full, you’d have been able to tell that it refers to technical/site support
i’m not a one trick pony, i have my fair share of non horny posts😒
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Me: 2008, him: 1993, big red flag? What should I watch out for?
36·1 day agothe date isn’t happening anymore. he texted me asking if we could change the venue as he realized he can’t really afford that restaurant at the moment (???, why was this realization so last minute) & i told him no worries i can pay for everything. he told me no way i could ever let a girl pay, it’s not fair to the girl and also “emasculating” to him. hate that attitude. called it off and cut contact. thank u, next.
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Me: 2008, him: 1993, big red flag? What should I watch out for?
71·1 day agowe talk about life, interests, hobbies, politics, small talk, random stuff; the basics, everything and anything. haven’t felt a gap in terms of communication
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Me: 2008, him: 1993, big red flag? What should I watch out for?
5·1 day agoit’s a nice restaurant part of a 4 star hotel. i suggested it as i’ve eaten there many times before and i know the food and experience is bomb
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Me: 2008, him: 1993, big red flag? What should I watch out for?
4·1 day agoyeah
i’m just exploring
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Do you care who the actors or actresses are when watching porn?
12·2 days agoI didn’t flag it because I don’t think it’s NSFW, since it isn’t graphic in nature. The community rules also say NSFW content is fine within reason. I’d rather post here to reach a wider audience than in a smaller community, especially since Lemmy is already relatively small to begin with.
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Do you care who the actors or actresses are when watching porn?
101·2 days agoTrue. That’s not what I meant. Some people just watch it for the action or the attractive bodies, without really caring who the performers are.
yeah
we had a disagreement over condom usage
it was fun but it s one and done as i disliked his attitude
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•reconnected with a childhood friend and he's coming over at 10pm
38·3 days agothe joke is the awkward small talk with someone you barely know & time + place of birth are used to create an astrology birth chart :)
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•reconnected with a childhood friend and he's coming over at 10pm
60·4 days agofeeling kinda sorry for him as he has work at 8 am and won’t get much sleep
violet08@lemmy.todayOPto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Decided to scrap the solo trip. Do you think it’s dumb?
7·4 days agoWell, my Swiss passport gives me 45 days visa-free, and I’m planning to max it out. That’s why I need an “unanchored” travel partner.

Lemmy also has a misogyny problem, despite being progressive on most issues. Besides my own experience, I’ve seen this a lot in women/feminism-related threads.