• xmunk@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    For this reason I refuse to take any actions that would mark a message as read until I’m confident I have time to reply to it.

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    6 months ago

    My problem is I don’t answer in my head. I think to myself, I need to craft a reply but I need time to do that, but then I don’t want to make the time to do it, and then I just don’t do it or I wait until way later when I crack and think “well I gotta say something” and send a half-assed reply just to put it out of mind.

    Answering texts is virtually no different to doing homework in my brain.

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    6 months ago

    This is exactly why I keep the messages unread so that I don’t forget to reply later, and eventually keep them unread for weeks making it useless to reply after so long, therefore giving up and not replying anyway

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    6 months ago

    I have memory for many many things. What I don’t have is the ability to recall them when I want. Also I wonder how can I have good long time memory while having zero short memory, it’s a mystery to me.

    • The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.worldOP
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      6 months ago

      The ability to consistently recall words/names of things is one of the most apparent changes when I’m medicated vs non-medicated.

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      6 months ago

      how can I have good long time memory while having zero short memory

      Sometimes when people have short-term or working memory issues, the brain over-relies on long-term memory to compensate.

  • kora@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    6 months ago

    This is why I have to overcome my phone call anxiety and inform anyone that I can’t even acknowledge a notification on my phone without risking forgetting, and they need to call me if they want any kind of timely response. And since I’m currently unmedicated I force myself to just not acknowledge/dismiss/click on any notifications until I know for sure that I’m prepared to take the time it takes me to respond to something.

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    6 months ago

    Usually for me it’s I have to check with my wife about the question…and then forget about it I’ll never think of it again until it’s far too late.

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    6 months ago

    I never understood this, if you read the msg, why not just respond to the msg, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard this either, like “I read your text but forgot to reply”… ok so why not just reply to the text when you read it that way you can’t forget to later lmao

    It saves us so much hassle for both parties in the long run

    • The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.worldOP
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      6 months ago

      For lots of people with ADHD, they’ll put things off until a future moment when they’re more focused. It’s just an attempt to conserve a limited resource, but it doesn’t always work well.

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    6 months ago

    This is my wife’s biggest trigger, people not responding to texts, for some reason it will lodge in her brain all day when her friends do this.

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    6 months ago

    In case anyone else could benefit from this knowledge, you should be able to mark texts unread on most phones now. I need that little red dot to remind me!

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      6 months ago

      The red dot means nothing to me. My brain has apparently learned to block it out nearly completely.

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        6 months ago

        It’s a constant arms race in my brain between finding methods to remind myself and my ability to ignore any and all reminders.